I remember this one time when I had two friends. These two friends liked each other, but I did not want them to talk because the other friends & I thought it would mess up everyone's friendship. I tried to convince them of this reason, but in the same token a person is going to do what they want to do. They began talking, coming closer everyday, at this point we knew it was no stoping them. When they decide they were going to be together, we gave them one rule "DO NOT PUT US IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES". But of course, since we are all friends, we would be in the middle of. So the rule itself, was a good rule but a pointless rule. Every time they were mad at each other they came to us for advice, putting us in the middle. We tried to help as much as we could without having to pick sides. I knew more detail than anyone else, so they would confide more in me. Sometimes they would tell me stuff, that I thought each other should know and not me. So, I was often stuck in the middle, making me the BAD PERSON because I wasn't able to tell that person and the GOOD PERSON for being a good friend to confide in. At a point, I told them to stop confiding in me and to talk it out among themselves, that I should not be the third person in your relationship, and I should not be the means of your communication. I say the means of their communication because every one of them would say something to me, the other one would say what did he/she say. They decides this was best, stopped telling me everything that happened in between them, and worked on their communication!
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